Why You May Feel The Guilt?
Marriage is an amalgam of two souls, a promise to love and cherish. Often, the sacred vows of Christianity are taken between the couple at a grand religious ceremony, wherein all the friends, relatives, and known pay a visit to be part of such an auspicious occasion. Therefore, when a marriage turns lives upside down, and you’re unable to get things in place, you may feel guilty for not keeping up the promise.
Even if your partner was at fault, involved in adultery, or taking drugs, or you were trapped in a sex-less marriage, you are still going to review your actions to see if you could have handled the matter differently. In most of the cases, during such situations, depression post-separation is pretty normal. The constant feeling of guilt and culpability takes over your mind and consumes your mental peace.
Is Guilt Good?
Yes, up to a certain extent, a little guilt is good unless it educates you on engaging in future relationships.
But, if the guilt is leveraging you to avoid all your social gatherings and indulge in things that matter to you, then you might end up having post-separation depression that can eventually result in your life going downhill.
Here, in this article, wherein we'll be putting forth the different ways to deal with the guilt post-divorce:
- Write it Down
What emotion you are going through must be written down on a piece of paper. Sometimes, our mind cooks up things that didn't happen, and on writing about it, we feel that it is not something we have to feel guilty about.
Prepare a journal, write it daily to plan your days rightly, manage your emotions, work on yourself for a better tomorrow, and find your balance. Gradually, you'll experience the change from within.
2. Take Baby Steps
You can't expect yourself to get into the dating game or be happy with friends and family like crazy a few days after the separation; motivate yourself into baby steps. First of all, take yourself off the couch, step out of your house, take a stroll into the evening, and feel the rejuvenating dawn breeze.
Do the simplest things, like brushing your teeth properly and wearing good clothes as you might do for your once soulmate. Call some of your old college pals and travel down memory lane by binge-watching your favorite Friends episodes or just talking about the best times you have had.
Stay calm; sometimes, anxiety may force you to do things that you may have to regret later on or feel wrong about, such as yelling at the other drivers on the road.
You can begin these baby steps by getting started with a meditation to control your mind and help yourself with better decision-making.
3. Delete Your Ex From Your Social Media Profiles
Once you have taken the big step to separate, it's time to unfriend your partner on your social profiles.
When you come across their recent post or stalk them continuously, it will always remind you of the moments you have spent together and the things you could have made better. To move on, you've to forget about them or at least make an effort.
Finally, speaking, you've to stay strong, embrace the single life, and enjoy all the advantages you can redeem.
